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According to Jaci Russo, founder of Social Nation U, I’m a technology immigrant and my children are technology natives.

In other words, I’m of a generation that remembers life before we had computers and digital technology at our fingertips every waking moment. My kids, who are in their early 20’s, never knew life without computers.

They seem to have a genetic predisposition for understanding the constantly evolving world of apps and social media that can easily send parents’ brains into a tailspin.

Russo says a major challenge for parents like me is that we have “immigrants” trying to teach “natives” how to maintain digital safety and appropriate interaction on apps that we can’t keep up with and frequently don’t have any interest in using. It’s hard to know what to do and how to do it.

Russo has been traveling the country for 10 years educating parents and kids about safe technology use. Her website offers multiple resources for parents, including specific information about how to monitor kids’ use of social media and how to raise children who are responsible digital citizens.

Some of her suggestions include:

  1. Monitor kids’ presence online and on social media: This doesn’t mean you spy on your kids and read their every text and email. However, parents should be “friends” with their children on social media sites so they can be aware of what their children are posting. If kids have an app, parents should have it too so they can practice using it and confirm that it’s appropriate for their child’s use.
  1. Provide a central charging station for the family outside of the bedrooms:  Phones, tablets and computers should be off limits during sleep hours. Providing a central charging station where everyone parks their devices overnight (including parents) can promote a family culture of positive mental, physical and technological health.

  2. Parents should control passwords and do research before allowing kids to download anything:  If you don’t have time to research, encourage your child to practice delayed gratification until you do. Don’t give in to the pressure to automatically okay anything.

    “Parents need to parent,” says Russo. “That means they need to enforce the technology rules in spite of kids’ protests. You wouldn’t let your kid drive your car without instructions and lots of supervised practice, but you let them travel the world of the internet with no supervision?”

Determine what level of technology is appropriate for your child at each age Katey McPherson, internet safety advocate and mother of four, encourages parents to have open discussions with their children about the family’s use of technology.

She recommends that parents be clear about the purpose of a device and then set reasonable limits for use. For instance, if the primary purpose for your child to have a phone is for safety, then a flip phone rather than a smart phone will suffice, especially for children younger than 12.

If your child is older than 12 and the purpose of them having a smartphone is not only increased safety but also access to the internet and social media, then ongoing conversations will be needed to ensure appropriate use.

When deciding whether your child is ready for a particular social media platform or app, McPherson recommends doing the research to find out what that platform or app allows in terms of content. If you’re ready for your child to be exposed to that content, then you can approve it. Parents can go to smartsocial.com to learn about more than 70 apps and whether they’re safe or harmful for teen use.

By Eva Dwight, BA, MEd, ACC, CPDT  (Written for All The Moms, USA Today, https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/allthemoms/2019/01/11/parents-can-monitor-kids-online-without-spying-them-heres-how/2343611002/

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